June 9, 2010
The topic of conversation was about being pushed off course or distracted by all the things we see (troubles, uncertainties or even fun, shiny things), when we ought to be focusing. Focusing on our goals. Making plans. Doing the work that is right in front of us.
Why is it that even with a list and schedule in hand, its so easy to get off track? Why do we let the insignificant get in the way of significant? Now, some of us (me) have a harder time with this than others (probably you), but do you ever wonder how you can start out so strong, so motivated, so totally pumped only to feel the sizzle fizzle out?
It's because we don't really believe we can do it.
Ouch. I hate typing that. But, at the heart of all of our loss of focus (unless you have ADHD) is a lack of belief in ourselves, and a fear that if we try we will fail, a fear that we will look dumb, and a fear of what might lie on the other side of success even if we could reach it.
I've been watching Jillian on Losing It the last couple of weeks and have been impressed with how many "hello, that's me" experiences I'm having .... I'm both loving and hating it, to be honest.
Jillian asks "why would you choose failure when you can have success?"
Fear. I think it's fear.
Jillian asks "what are you so afraid of?"
The unknown. Failure. Looking dumb. What I can't see, if I can sustain this, blah blah blah.
When we stop to think about this, its really kind of dumb. If we are unhappy with our looks, weight, health, what have you, we ought to be fearing staying the way we are rather than changing. See, our fears just don't make sense. It's like when fear is ruling, it cuts off the oxygen supply and we just don't think clearly.
So, here's my fear: I have lived in this overweight body for so long that its both comfortable and uncomfortable. It's familiar. I know it. I don't know healthy & skinny. Will I get proud and all full of myself or will I grow sweeter with every pound lost? Will I stand ready to help others who are walking in my old shoes or will I just be so busy buying new ones?
Also, there is the fact that I am 53. Dare I say that I could be set in my ways? Never! Okay, well maybe. Okay, okay, yes, a little. As much as I try to keep my mind and heart open to all things new, I'm always looking through a lens, the sunglasses of my life, all the while sitting in the shade and missing all the fun. How much sense does that make?
I think I'm ready to take the shades off now, as safe as they sometimes feel. I want to see all the brightness around me. I want reality. If I'm gonna walk around being unhappy, I want to know why and face every last reason so I can deal with it. I WANT to know healthy and skinny. I'm ready to push through every day, working at these simple habits of healthy living and wash all of my fear away along with the sweat that rolls down my back! I am ready for the adventure of a new life!
So, what about you....
Do you believe you can do this? You can, you know.
Ask yourself why you choose failure when you can have success. And, what you are afraid of. They are just really really good questions. And, really, what is the alternative?
Here with you in the climb,
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